Don't Start

As an addict there are things that we aren’t equipped to stop doing once we have started. The first drink, snort, fried pie or video clip sends us down into an irreversible tailspin from which there is a very real threat of never recovering. The fact is that we don’t have to concern ourselves today with the 12th shot of whiskey or the last dust off the eightball because our primary issue is with the first ANYTHING. We’ll never reach a blackout if we don’t get started.

We have to realize that with anything we cannot stop, we must not start. The first is worse than the last because our last doesn’t exist without our first. The insanity of the first _____ is something that for years we couldn’t avoid, but now dodging it is the most necessary of all the things we do. We cannot reach the part of our recovery wherein we may repair our lives if we never fully stop the behavior. How can we hope to see the end of the tunnel otherwise?

How does one avoid the first ______ ? It starts with self-awareness. I know that my sobriety neither requires nor necessitate anyone elses’ and I don’t expect others to modify the way they live on my behalf- my sobriety is my responsibility and no one besides me can keep it or jeopardize it. I have to know when something doesn’t feel right and act accordingly.

At times it means “keeping gas in the car and air in your tires”- you have to know when a situation becomes one that you must leave immediately. Sobriety is the foundation for everything in the lives of recovering addicts and as such it must be carefully guarded.

For everyone in recovery the exact answer is different, but for many it involves speaking with or getting around our fellows. We must be so in-tune with our own thinking that we recognize when it is just time to pick up the phone or get our butts to a meeting or other recovery fellowship. You do what you must to get where you must be.

A relapse never sneaks up on anyone, although many or most don’t see it until they have the benefit of hindsight. When you aren’t “taking your medicine” you will get sick and it is your responsibility alone to be sure you do what you know you need to. There are certain elements that are absolutes when it comes to sobriety and while everyone has a different relapse prevention plan, it all will always involve avoiding “the first” by any means.